The person giving the advice has no idea of the ramifications involved in the choice. It's just like pulling a card out of a deck and saying here, this is what you should do. Yet, so many people fall for it and suddenly their entire life revolves around pulling the Queen of Spades out of the deck. It's too late to blame anyone. You're the one that took the advice. It sounded great! Easy Street! This will get you where you want to go!
A long time ago I was taught by very prudent and loving people, that one should never take the advice of just one person. You should always investigate all the options available. Weigh the pro's and con's. Search your true feelings as well as your motivation. Get more opinions from good, reliable and successful individuals who have a proven track record. Then, after much analysis, soul-searching and careful consideration, make your choice.
A quick and easy decision is often the worst possible choice. It's not that easy you say, because you worked hard on making that happen. Now wait a minute. I didn't say you didn't have to take logical steps to make anything happen. I suggested that it was the initial "quick and easy" decision that was the worst possible choice to make. Why? Well, have you considered how it will affect everyone involved? Have you truly and honestly searched deep within yourself to determine if this easy street answer was just a quick-fix? Have you looked down the road in your mind and soul to visualize how it will affect your life if you do this? How many truly successful people (and I do not mean all relatives and friends) have you run this thought by? Did they endorse it? Did you really weigh the pro's and con's fully, or are you just going with the one or two pro's because you want it so bad you can taste it?
This may seem like a truly non-spiritual topic, yet I assure you it's all about it. Just because someone is spiritual does not mean they are incompetent, blundering idiots. In fact, some of the most spiritual people I know are deep thinkers who care very much about how their choices impact people affected by them. There is not a possibility of your choices not affecting others, they will and they do. To assume your choices do not impact others is foolish and insensitive.
Integrity includes doing the best we can with the available options and then, pushing through to learn other ways of doing things, pushing out of our comfort zone and taking responsibility for our actions or our laziness. We cannot honestly blame another for our refusing to pick up the paper on the floor when we were just to lazy to pick it up ourselves.
My point is, that you always have a choice. When you think you have no choices, go outside your comfort zone and get away from your usual acquaintances and knowledge base and learn how others live and why they have the lives that they have. There is always a price. Even lottery winners have choices to make. Lack of responsibility with the winnings mean those winnings are wasted and gone before they can bat an eyelash and they are left right back where they started, in the salt mine, so to speak. So take your decisions and work. Work on yourself, work on learning and getting out of your easy chair. The rainbow has the pot of gold at the other end for a reason.
